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Why Is Premarital Sex a Sin?

Wednesday, July 30th, 2008

photo by Jorge Miele            Let’s be honest, Christian morality has never been all that popular.  The idea that God wants us to live our lives in a certain way, in a way that may not necessarily be our way, is a bit irksome.  And that irksomeness, while present at virtually every point and in virtually every arena of human action, is most clearly felt and thus most vehemently expressed on those points to which  God says “no” to which our minds, our acquaintances, and, most important of all, our broader culture say “yes”.  Given this, it isn’t surprising that the bit of Christian morality most burdensome and thus most hateful to modern Westerners regards sex. 

            Our nation and those like it are awash in sexuality.  And thus the Bible’s attempted regulation of sex seems to be a scandalous and monstrous imposition on our own pursuit of happiness.  Biblical injunctions pertaining to adultery, fornication, marriage, re-marriage, homosexuality, and so on can seem quaintly outdated at best and bigoted and repressive at worst.  But as in all things, the Lord’s guidance is good and despite our short-sighted and largely acculturated hostility to it, it nevertheless deserves our obedience.

            Still, conscientious obedience is often easier than blind obedience. With this in mind let’s look at just one of the ways that the Bible attempts to regulate human sexuality: the prohibition of fornication, of premarital sex.

            The Bible’s view of premarital sex is fairly obvious.  Both Testaments, in Deuteronomy 22 and 1 Corinthians 7, make it very clear that sexuality can only lawfully be expressed within a marriage.  Deuteronomy, in its hard-line fashion, makes this apparent by demanding either death or forced marriage for those found to have fornicated in one fashion or another.  1 Corinthians 7 contains Paul’s widely dismissed advice to remain altogether celibate and his much more widely received permission to marry.  But Paul allows marriage precisely so as to prevent fornication within the early Christian community. The implication is that Paul felt that it was better for a Christian to lose his laser-like focus on the things of God in the hustle and bustle of married life than to sleep around; that’s quite a statement coming from a religious leader.

            But why?  Why is premarital sex so maligned in the Bible?  After all, it’s one thing to forbid something and quite another to justifiably forbid it.  The answer to this question, as is so often the case with spiritual things, is multifaceted. 

            First there are practical considerations.  Unmarried sex can (and often does) lead to single motherhood which puts an incredible burden on the young lady involved both physically and emotionally.  Additionally, with the heightened sense of significance sexuality brings to a relationship, the potential for heartbreak is all the more serious.  And, of course, there is the matter of disease.  Considering that even in the U.S. today, with all our ingenious methods for rendering promiscuous sex safer than it might otherwise be, a recent CDC study found that roughly 25% of teenage girls are currently infected with a sexually transmitted disease that could potentially seriously impact their reproductive health.  God’s laws related to sex, as with those related to other, more mundane pursuits, have a protective quality to them; they protect us from the world and, in some cases, from ourselves.

            But in addition to the practical concerns, there is a more symbolic issue as well.  1 Corinthians 6 speaks of the distasteful chain of associations that can result from premarital sex.  By becoming a Christian a person is uniting himself in a somewhat mystical fashion with Jesus.  Likewise, when a person has sex with someone else he is also, though is a far crasser way, uniting himself with his partner.  To paraphrase Paul: if Jesus is connected to you and you are connected to a bunch of sluts, then Jesus…  You get the idea.  As a result, Paul encourages his readers to treat their bodies with respect and dignity knowing that they, in a sense, are a temple of God, which is to say, that they are associated with the name of the Lord.

            Finally, there is the whole matter of what God intended sex to be.  When Jesus was approached and asked about sexual ethics He referred his petitioners to the origin of human sex—that is, the origin of humanity.  In Mark 10, Jesus quoted from Genesis 2, reminding his listeners that sexuality was intended, from the very beginning, to be expressed in a lifelong committed relationship that ultimately produced children, an act by which the couple’s “becoming one” is powerfully and literally represented.  Given that this was God’s intention all along, to seek to separate these components (sexuality, marriage, childbirth) from one another in an absolute fashion (as premarital sex necessarily does) is to act contrary to the will of God.

Goodness and Greatness

Friday, June 13th, 2008

Footprint on the moon.

            Thirty-nine years ago, Neil Armstrong and Edwin “Buzz” Aldrin brought the Apollo 11 mission to its climax.  On July 20, 1969 two people, after traveling hundreds of thousands of miles, climbed out of a cramped multi-billion dollar box and walked on the moon.  The moon!  Roughly five hundred million people watched as this pair of Americans achieved one of the most significant propaganda victories of the Cold War, affirming the superiority of the free world over against its authoritarian enemies.

            But as amazing as the moon landing was in terms of its political value, its most enduring legacy is a more general one: Apollo 11 bears witness to the power of human ability. The achievement was so overwhelming, so mythical in scope, that it clearly indicated that mankind, given enough money, technology, and will, can do virtually anything.  As God is said to have remarked at Babel, “nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them.”

            This limitless horizon of possibility has filled many with a sense of optimism, and with cause.  Our march from the Stone Age to the modern day has been attended by meaningful advances in the human condition.  Each year it seems that new medicines are developed, new communication arrays are installed, and more efficient agricultural techniques are unveiled making disease, isolation, and starvation ever more distant realities.

            At the same time, though, the progress of human power has had a darker side as well.  The very same theoretical and technological advances that have given us more cures, communications and corn have also given us germ-warfare, online child pornography, and the Holocaust. Thus, while our advances may fill us with hope, our hopes must be tempered with realism.  

            T.S. Eliot once wrote that modern people occupy themselves “dreaming of systems so perfect that no one will need to be good.”  Sadly, these dreams must forever remain exactly that—mere dreams.  For as history has shown, advances of all sorts are ambiguous things; great power can be used both for great good and for great evil; it’s up to the actor to decide which.  Thus goodness will always be a needful thing.

            This sobering truth—power’s inherent ambiguity—ought to cause us to examine our own lives then.  Is the world a better place because of us?  Are we using our ever-increasing wealth, talents, and influence to improve our communities?  Or are we just using our fellow men and women as so much “raw material” for the satisfaction of our own selfish and destructive desires?  Put simply, are we good? 

            A prophet once said, “the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.” (2 Chronicles 16:9)  Now, commitment to the Lord involves a number of things, but a commitment to righteousness, to goodness, is among them.  Thus, just as power needs righteousness so righteousness, it would seem, may lead to power.  Let’s then keep this relationship between goodness and greatness in mind—both when we advance personally in some fashion and, perhaps, when we want to.

Father’s Day

Friday, May 30th, 2008

Photo by Enigma Photos.          In America, the third Sunday of June is set aside as a day to honor fathers.  Father’s Day, despite its relatively recent origin, has nonetheless come to be one of the great affirmations of life.  On this day millions of sons and daughters will take their fathers to lunch, give sentimental cards, and even little gifts to remind their dads that they’re appreciated.

          While some may balk at all this, the big to-do is wholly appropriate considering that fatherhood stands as one of the twin pillars of that most fundamental of all human institutions: the family.  Each successive generation of fathers thus bears the impressive and intimidating responsibility to work alongside its wives to raise up the next generation of mankind.  With this in mind it seems that, if anything, the fuss people make over Father’s Day, being only one day out of the year, is rather more inadequate than over-blown.

          But fathers can take heart; the blessings and difficulties of fatherhood are not something that God leads us into unaided.  Instead, the Lord equips each man called to this high estate with at least three points of reference to guide him: the example of his own father, the potentially much surer example of God Himself, and the teachings of the Bible.  As Jesus said, “From everyone who has been given much, much will be required.”  Or, to invert the statement, “To everyone from whom much will be required, much has been given.”

          In the example of our own fathers we see that ordinary men, men with strengths and also weaknesses, virtues and also vices, can, if they work at it, do a fairly good job of raising children; that is to say, fatherhood doesn’t require perfection, only commitment.  At the same time, the example furnished to us by God, the Father Almighty, in His dealings with both Israel and the early Church shows us that fatherhood requires love, but also discipline; high expectations, but also a willingness to forgive.  And in Scripture we see how these two examples can be related to our own attempts at fatherhood, both in how to treat one’s children and (of equal importance) how to treat their mothers–specifically in the Book of Proverbs, St. Paul’s letters to the Ephesians and Colossians, and St. Peter’s first letter.

          So this Father’s Day, thank dear ol’ dad for everything that he’s done, but also take a moment to consider Who else might be entitled to a bit of your time and a few words of gratitude.

Don’t Forget About Easter *Too* Soon

Tuesday, March 25th, 2008

Photo by Gary Simmons          March has past us by and, this year, that means that Easter has come and gone as well.  But while Easter Sunday may be just a memory brought to mind by the now drastically discounted chocolate bunnies and swiftly disappearing Cadbury Crème Eggs, the reality at which that day hinted still lingers.  Thus, for centuries, the Church has recognized Easter not just as a single day which points back to a singular historical event (the first Easter) but as the beginning of a new season that mirrors the new era into which the first Easter ushered our world. 

          The Easter season, also called Eastertide by those with an antiquarian bent, is a time in which Christians focus on those painfully few weeks between the resurrection of Jesus and His subsequent ascension into heaven.  For the first disciples this was no doubt a time of joy mixed with confusion: What exactly does the empty tomb imply?  What are we to make of the fact that Jesus, a man we saw die, has appeared to us, even eaten with us?  How does this change things—our faith, the way we see the world, our very lives?  We might imagine that all of these questions buzzed through the minds of the Apostles between their fleeting encounters with the risen Jesus.  And as such the Easter season is an opportunity for us to ask ourselves the very same questions:  essentially, what does Easter mean for us?

           For starters it means hope, confident hope.  The Hebrew scriptures contain a number of brief and oblique references to some kind of life after death, even some kind of resurrection.  But in the experiences of Jesus these glimmering sparks were fanned into full flame; the abstract and plausibly deniable promises of the prophets and others were represented and enacted in a physical example.  And thus our hopes, as people living in the great Eastertide of history, that the grave need not conquer and that death need not be the end are nourished and strengthened.

           Further, this season means clarity of purpose.  Just as Jesus’ empty tomb confirms that life extends beyond death, indeed triumphs over death through Him, so that triumph stands arrayed like an invincible army against the despair and nihilistic dissolution that characterizes so many modern lives. Far from a trivial and absurd respite before “the inevitable”, life takes on a vastly more significant character.  For if death is merely a temporary imposition prior to the beginning of a far fuller and longer-lasting existence then those elements of our life that insinuate their importance to our spirits—our relationships with God, our families, our duties, and so on—acquire a significance they would not otherwise have.

          Of course there are further implications one could divine.  But part of the fun of the Easter season is to ponder over these questions oneself.  And so I invite you to consider what Easter means for you.  And don’t worry, there’s no rush; Eastertide extends into early May this year.

 

 

On Jesus and Jellybeans

Thursday, March 6th, 2008

Easter Basket, Photo by John Petit

            Easter comes early this year.  It’s only March and already I’m considering the themes of the Easter sunrise sermon.  In a few short weeks Christians around the world will gather together in their cathedrals and churches, on hilltops, and in local parks to celebrate Jesus’ glorious victory over death and hell.  Preachers will lift up the memory of Christ and His first disciples; they will proclaim the miracle and invite their hearers to live in the glorious light of this all-informing event.  God will be honored, believers will be uplifted, and sinners will be saved.

            But in addition to the overtly religious elements of Easter, many of us will also participate in other events which are less inherently spiritual: the giving of baskets filled with candy and stuffed bunnies, feverish hunts for colorful eggs (both real and plastic) hidden among bushes and lawn chairs, and so on.  And in the midst of this pastel-hued fun the overwhelming majority of revelers will sally forth completely lost in the moment, both unconcerned and unaware of the history of the less Christocentric elements of the holiday.  But for a number of families the bliss of ignorance will be impossible.  For these informed and unfortunate few (think Ecclesiastes 1:18) the dubious realities of the past will intrude in on the merriment and cast an uncomfortable shadow over the day.

            Just as we inherit of our ancestors’ genes, so too have we inherited elements of our ancestors’ culture and this unavoidable principle can be seen quite clearly in Easter. The very word “Easter” comes from “Eostre”, a pagan fertility goddess worshipped by the pre-Christian Anglo-Saxons.  What’s more, eggs and rabbits (symbols of fertility for obvious reasons) were associated with the goddess in ancient times.  It is precisely this history which makes some Christians uncomfortable with the marginalia of Easter Sunday.

            Here at First Baptist, we’re currently working through a study on the Book of Judges and we recently focused on a passage which seems apropos here.  In the story of Gideon one finds that the Lord called His servant to a particularly provocative task: “Take your father’s bull and a second bull seven years old, and pull down the altar of Baal which belongs to your father, and cut down the Asherah that is beside it; and build an altar to the LORD your God on the top of this stronghold in an orderly manner, and take a second bull and offer a burnt offering with the wood of the Asherah which you shall cut down” (Judges 6:25-26).  God essentially told Gideon to utterly destroy the sacred site of Baalism in his community and then to use the rubble to facilitate the worship the one true God.  Think of that, Gideon, at God’s command, used stones and wood once consecrated to spiritual error in the construction of an altar dedicated to the Lord.  The wood and the stones were not contaminated by their former use, they weren’t made somehow “unclean”; they were simply raw material, raw material which was recycled and used to glorify God.

            Now if God can be glorified with rocks and wood once associated with a false god, why not eggs and rabbits?  For while Eostre may have had a lock on these things in the first few centuries of the Christian era in the English speaking world, the same simply cannot be said today.  When Westerners see the Cadbury Bunny on TV hocking its delicious cream-filled chocolate eggs we think of Easter, and when we think of Easter we think of Jesus’ triumphant rise from the grave.  And thus, these potent symbols of fertility and life have come, in a sense, to be symbols of the resurrection and the new life that we can receive through that event.  For however much a sham goddess may have represented vitality to the ancient English, her claims were as nothing compared against the Savior that St. Augustine and his companions preached—that One who came that we may have life, and have it abundantly.

New Year’s Resolutions

Thursday, January 10th, 2008

New Year's Day

            January is a time of renewed commitment and resolutions.  Each year millions of people promise themselves that they will lose weight, travel more, quit smoking, fix the shed, learn French or pursue some other equally noble goal.  In the weeks following New Year’s Day we often ask one another, “What’s your resolution for the new year?” And all too often the question is met with something like the following: “Well, I made a resolution, but…”  Firm commitments made at the beginning of January have a disappointing way of fizzling out by the month’s end.  And thus our waistlines continue to bulge, cigarettes still appear on our shopping lists, and those French tapes will have to wait until next year.

            Perhaps one of the reasons that our New Year’s resolutions so commonly fail is because they tend to focus on relatively trivial matters.  Sure, finally visiting the Grand Canyon is a great goal, but is it the greatest goal?  Perhaps our dedication to change would benefit from a desire to change not merely our appearances or even our lifestyles but our very selves, that indivisible core of our personal identity: our souls.  Perhaps this year we ought to resolve to reconnect with our God through prayer.  Maybe it’s time to give that dusty Bible hidden away on the book shelf another look.  Maybe it’s time to get reacquainted with a pew at your local church.

            Of course, the benefits of a robust connection with the Lord, greater Biblical literacy, and meaningful involvement in a community of faith don’t lend themselves to bragging quite as easily as a newly painted shed (though, sadly, some have tried).  But while immaculate lawns and healthy lungs eventually surrender to the inevitability of time, the rewards of a genuine relationship with God are a bit longer lasting.

What should Christians think of Halloween?

Tuesday, October 9th, 2007

   Jack O' Lanterns

             Every year at around this time one hears of churches sponsoring “Halloween alternatives”.  I’ve had the pleasure of both attending these events as a patron in my childhood and of sponsoring them later on as a youth pastor.  Generally the events take the form of a small carnival with games and snacks and they often center on a harvest theme.  In keeping with the expectations of children candy is everywhere, pumpkins are plentiful and costumes may even be worn.  But even so, regardless of all these tell-tale signs, the actual word “Halloween” is rarely spoken.  In fact, in some quarters it’s avoided like the plague. 

The thinking behind this behavior is rather straight-forward: Halloween has pagan roots and so it would be inappropriate for a believer to participate in it… well, at least to name it.

            In many ways, modern Christians who avoid Halloween are much like ancient Christians who avoided meat that had been sacrificed to idols.  In both instances the thing in view has been associated at some time with dark spiritual forces and the believer is all too aware of its dubious history.  It seems that these two instances of scrupulousness are simply two particular incarnations of the same thing: a well-intentioned attempt to please the Lord which fails to fully grasp both the truth and power of God (1 Corinthians 8).

Halloween does indeed have a pagan background, developing out of Celtic festivals such as Samhain in the British Isles in which the spirits of the dead figured prominently.  But while October 31st may have a rather dubious lineage, like other formerly pagan holidays (including Christmas and Easter) this day has undergone a process of Christianization.  As the gospel moved into the British Isles the Church recognized both the danger and the opportunity that Samhain and its ilk presented.  As such, the early Christians took the day and reinterpreted it, instituting the feast of All Saints on November 1st: a day on which believers looked back to the heroes of the faith whom had left a good example for us to follow, à la Hebrews 11.  All Saints, sometimes called “All Hallows” (as in “hallowed ground”, meaning holy) was preceded by a vigil of prayer and sometimes fasting which began on the evening before All Hallows—All Hallows Eve (as in “Christmas Eve”), the day from which we get our word “Halloween”.

As such, Halloween is an excellent example of what Jesus spoke of when commenting on the kingdom of Satan in Luke 11.  After parrying criticism that He was merely casting out devils by the authority of the prince of devils (the Devil) Jesus said, “When a strong man, fully armed, guards his own house, his possessions are safe. But when someone stronger attacks and overpowers him, he takes away the armor in which the man trusted and divides up the spoils.”  In the parable Satan is the strong man, the “God of this world” (2 Cor. 4:4) guarding his own territory, who is overpowered by the Spirit of God, the “someone stronger” (1 John 4:4).  Christ tells us that not only are the strong man’s possessions—people—taken from him (Luke 13:16), but that he is stripped even of the armor he trusted in, even those things which he had hoped would help him to retain control of his domain.

The church has seen the power of God accomplish this impressive feat over and over again, taking the very institutions that perpetuated the spiritual darkness of the world and redeeming them to aid in the salvation of lost souls.  The pagan festivals of Yule and Saturnalia with their feasting and evergreen trees were transformed into Christmas; the springtime worship of the pagan goddess Eostre with its emphasis on fertility (eggs, bunnies) was transformed into Easter; and Samhain was transformed into Halloween.  In each of these instances, engines of ignorance and fear were reinterpreted, purified, and pressed in to the Lord’s service—the very armor of Satan placed in the armory of the Lord.

Of course, Halloween has lost much of its religious significance but the commercialization of Halloween doesn’t somehow make it immoral just as the commercialization of Christmas doesn’t forbid Christians from celebrating on that day.  Indeed, I don’t see why it would be any more immoral to gather candy from the neighbors on October 31st than it is to give them gifts on December 25th. 

With this said though, Paul’s cautionary words regarding meat sacrificed to idols apply just as much as his encouraging words.  While Christians have the freedom to enjoy something formerly associated with spiritual falsehood, we do not have the freedom to tear down our brothers and sisters in possession of weak consciences.  Therefore we ought not to attempt to cajole our fellow believers into something against their scruples with playful harassment or malicious needling.  Instead, let us merely direct them to the pertinent verses and history and allow the Holy Spirit to do the rest.