Why Is Premarital Sex a Sin?
Wednesday, July 30th, 2008
Let’s be honest, Christian morality has never been all that popular. The idea that God wants us to live our lives in a certain way, in a way that may not necessarily be our way, is a bit irksome. And that irksomeness, while present at virtually every point and in virtually every arena of human action, is most clearly felt and thus most vehemently expressed on those points to which God says “no” to which our minds, our acquaintances, and, most important of all, our broader culture say “yes”. Given this, it isn’t surprising that the bit of Christian morality most burdensome and thus most hateful to modern Westerners regards sex.
Our nation and those like it are awash in sexuality. And thus the Bible’s attempted regulation of sex seems to be a scandalous and monstrous imposition on our own pursuit of happiness. Biblical injunctions pertaining to adultery, fornication, marriage, re-marriage, homosexuality, and so on can seem quaintly outdated at best and bigoted and repressive at worst. But as in all things, the Lord’s guidance is good and despite our short-sighted and largely acculturated hostility to it, it nevertheless deserves our obedience.
Still, conscientious obedience is often easier than blind obedience. With this in mind let’s look at just one of the ways that the Bible attempts to regulate human sexuality: the prohibition of fornication, of premarital sex.
The Bible’s view of premarital sex is fairly obvious. Both Testaments, in Deuteronomy 22 and 1 Corinthians 7, make it very clear that sexuality can only lawfully be expressed within a marriage. Deuteronomy, in its hard-line fashion, makes this apparent by demanding either death or forced marriage for those found to have fornicated in one fashion or another. 1 Corinthians 7 contains Paul’s widely dismissed advice to remain altogether celibate and his much more widely received permission to marry. But Paul allows marriage precisely so as to prevent fornication within the early Christian community. The implication is that Paul felt that it was better for a Christian to lose his laser-like focus on the things of God in the hustle and bustle of married life than to sleep around; that’s quite a statement coming from a religious leader.
But why? Why is premarital sex so maligned in the Bible? After all, it’s one thing to forbid something and quite another to justifiably forbid it. The answer to this question, as is so often the case with spiritual things, is multifaceted.
First there are practical considerations. Unmarried sex can (and often does) lead to single motherhood which puts an incredible burden on the young lady involved both physically and emotionally. Additionally, with the heightened sense of significance sexuality brings to a relationship, the potential for heartbreak is all the more serious. And, of course, there is the matter of disease. Considering that even in the U.S. today, with all our ingenious methods for rendering promiscuous sex safer than it might otherwise be, a recent CDC study found that roughly 25% of teenage girls are currently infected with a sexually transmitted disease that could potentially seriously impact their reproductive health. God’s laws related to sex, as with those related to other, more mundane pursuits, have a protective quality to them; they protect us from the world and, in some cases, from ourselves.
But in addition to the practical concerns, there is a more symbolic issue as well. 1 Corinthians 6 speaks of the distasteful chain of associations that can result from premarital sex. By becoming a Christian a person is uniting himself in a somewhat mystical fashion with Jesus. Likewise, when a person has sex with someone else he is also, though is a far crasser way, uniting himself with his partner. To paraphrase Paul: if Jesus is connected to you and you are connected to a bunch of sluts, then Jesus… You get the idea. As a result, Paul encourages his readers to treat their bodies with respect and dignity knowing that they, in a sense, are a temple of God, which is to say, that they are associated with the name of the Lord.
Finally, there is the whole matter of what God intended sex to be. When Jesus was approached and asked about sexual ethics He referred his petitioners to the origin of human sex—that is, the origin of humanity. In Mark 10, Jesus quoted from Genesis 2, reminding his listeners that sexuality was intended, from the very beginning, to be expressed in a lifelong committed relationship that ultimately produced children, an act by which the couple’s “becoming one” is powerfully and literally represented. Given that this was God’s intention all along, to seek to separate these components (sexuality, marriage, childbirth) from one another in an absolute fashion (as premarital sex necessarily does) is to act contrary to the will of God.